THE CAMPAIGN

The Be a Star campaign is dedicated to increasing the number of young mums who choose to breastfeed. We hope to do this by showcasing the beauty, confidence and pride that comes with breastfeeding, as well as providing breastfeeding information and support and highlighting the unique health benefits that it brings to both baby and mum.

We have created this blog to provide breastfeeding advice and information and to make it as easy as possible for you to get involved in our growing community of breastfeeding mums - to take part in topical discussions, share tips and support other mums with your advice and experience.

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Breastfeeding is great for mum and baby, but it can make dad feel relegated to the subs bench.

With everyone focusing on the baby and the partner doing all the feeding, it’s normal for most blokes to feel a little pushed out.

SPARE PART
Because new mums probably won’t feel very sexy for a while, dads can end up feeling like a complete spare part. If this sounds familiar, don’t worry—it’s perfectly normal. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby and it doesn’t mean you’re not bonding. “For a while I felt like all I could do was cheer from the touchline” explained Peter Purcell, 35 from Swinton. “But I just made sure that I got involved in other ways.”

DON’T BE A BABY
The most important thing is to make sure you don’t let these feelings get in the way of supporting your partner at this important stage in your baby’s life. Check out the “It Takes Two” post for a run down of all the other stuff your baby and partner need—stuff that you and only you can do.

The longer a mum breastfeeds her baby, the healthier she will be in later life, according to new research.

Doctors around the world agree that breast is best for baby. But new research now shows that the women who carry on breastfeeding for more than a year are 20% less likely to suffer from high cholesterol.The chances of developing diabetes also drop by 13% and high blood pressure by 12%. “Breastfeeding is an important part of the way women’s bodies recover from pregnancy,” said Dr Eleanor Bimla Schwarz.

And when this process is stopped early, women are more likely to have a number of health problems, including heart attacks and strokes. “The longer a mother breastfeeds her baby, the better for both of them.”

KNOW YOUR STUFF IF THE GOING GETS TOUGH.

Whilst it’s the most natural thing in the world, it’s not always a complete breeze. As a bloke you need to be ready to step in if things start to get difficult.

MYTH
It’s a myth that breastfeeding hurts. There may be a little discomfort during the first few days, but it’s not normal for this to continue.

COURAGE
Kylie, 20 from Little Hulton really went through the mill, but was determined to give baby Kyran the benefit of her own milk. Partner, Paul Wegener explains, “Pretty much anything that could go wrong, did go wrong for Kylie. But she fought through it and continued to feed. I’m so proud of her. I did what I could to support her and it meant a lot to her to know she wasn’t on her own.”

SEEK HELP
If your partner is experiencing pain when breastfeeding, take charge and seek help as soon as possible. Your Health Visitor or Midwife will be able to advise you on what to do, but if you aren’t due a visit use the YOUR local support page to get help straight away.

COMMON ISSUES

CRACKED NIPPLES
This happens when the baby doesn’t attach properly. Your partner could get a breast infection or reduced milk supply and it might put her off continuing to breastfeed. She shouldn’t have to suffer—seek help.

MASTITIS
This is caused when bacteria gets into a blocked milk duct. It can infect the breast (often through a cracked nipple) and requires treat- ment with antibiotics. Continuing to feed can actually help clear it up —so encourage her not to give up.

THRUSH
Some babies get thrush in their mouth. This can be passed to mum when feeding and can be painful for them both. It usually requires treatment with drops, gel or cream.

FEEDING PROBLEMS
It’s possible that your partner won’t be able to produce enough milk or it might not flow freely. But this is almost always down to fine-tuning technique. Getting her position right is vital to make sure the baby is attached and feeding properly. It’s also an idea to get to know how ‘latching on’ works and what it looks like when done properly so you can help in a more hands on way.

BABY BONDING FOR BLOKES.

CUDDLES
Give your partner and baby plenty of kisses and hugs whilst they feed.

PLAY, PLAY, PLAY
Every bloke is good at messing around. And now you have the perfect excuse!

CHANGE NAPPIES
It’s not just about cleaning bums. Nappy changes involve talking to your baby, being gentle and taking care of their needs.

BATH TIME IS YOUR TIME
If possible, make bathing a dad-thing in the same way that feeding is a mum-thing.

DO THE BURPING
Not you, the baby! Some babies need to get it off their chest.

EXPRESSING
Your partner might be able to express milk so you can feed your baby from a bottle without using formula.

If you think breastfeeding is a job just for mum—think again! There’s loads of other stuff that needs to go on behind the scenes to make it happen.

So many women give up breastfeeding because they don’t get the support they need in the early stages.

It’s up to you to make breastfeeding a double act and do whatever you can to give your baby the best possible start. Here’s a few pointers…

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1. FIX IT
Make sure the house runs smoothly: DIY, cooking, cleaning, shopping etc. Not only will she be exhausted, but she might be worried that these things aren’t being taken care of.

2. GUARD
Make sure your partner isn’t getting too many visitors. Let others know when your family needs to be alone. Turn off the phone or put a ‘do not disturb’ sign on the front door.

3. TAKE CHARGE
If you have other children, make sure they give mum and baby some space. Distract them with fun activities and exercise, but see that they still get enough attention (and sleep!).

4. PROTECT
Stop people from making negative comments about breastfeeding. Even if it comes from your own mum!

5. SEEK OUT
Find skilled help if any problems crop up. Know what to look for, what to do and who to contact. See your local support page for more information on what’s happening in your area.

6. SEARCH
Find details of local mums’ breastfeeding groups. Chances are, there’s loads of help available in your area. See your local support page or contact your local PCT for more info.

7. BE PROUD
What your partner’s doing is amazing. Make sure she knows you think so.

8. BE A MAN
Blokes meet their baby’s needs in different ways to mums. Your baby needs an involved dad not a substitute mum. Make time, stay close, get to know your baby and understand their needs.

Whilst there are two very good  reasons why dads don’t breastfeed, there’s no reason at all why they shouldn’t bond with their baby.

You might not have the boobs, but you do have the heart, the brain and a knack of finding ways around things. Are you really going to let the fact that you were born without boobs get in the way of being best mates with your brand new bundle of joy?

STRONGER BOND
Paul Wegener, 22 from Little Hulton certainly didn’t. “I think I have a stronger bond with my baby than if he’d been bottle fed. It made me find other things to do with him rather than just relying on bonding by feeding. I go to Dad and Baby groups with him, but it’s as simple as playing, cuddling and spending time together.”

MYTHS
Bonding isn’t some magical thing that only happens between mums and babies. A bond is what connects people together—it grows out of the time you spend together and the way you care for each other. You bond with your family, you bond with your partner. You even bond with your mates!

Now, we’re not suggesting that you take your newborn down the Feathers for a couple of pints. But the fact is there’s loads of ways you can carve out a special place in their hearts without stuffing balloons up your jumper or saving up for implants. Some dads like to turn the tables and claim part of the baby’s routine for themselves. “I took charge of the bathing,” explained Peter Purcell, 35 from Swinton. “It was something that I looked forward to all day—a special time that me and my daughter shared every day. It brought us really close together .”

The main thing is not to feel like you’re missing out on something because your partner’s doing all the feeding. It’s down to you! These are very special times in a dad’s life: get busy, get pro-active and enjoy getting to know each other.

29 year-old Salford rapper, Tim Cooke, is partner to Star Charissa and proud dad to 17 month-old Malachi. From beats to teats, we get the lowdown on daddy-hood from a man who’s done it.

How did you feel when you found out your partner was pregnant?
Fantastic, really excited. Then as it started to sink in I was like ‘Oh no, what have we done? I haven’t a clue what I’m doing!’ But the apprehension didn’t last long and now I’ve another on the way.

Did you talk about breastfeeding when she was pregnant?
I went to all the ante-natal classes and stuff. We talked about it a lot and it was obvious that it was the best thing for the baby. Charissa said that she really wanted to try her hardest to feed him, no matter how hard it was going to be. I just wanted to do everything I could to support her without pressuring her. I think some women feel they have to breastfeed no matter what.

What did you know about breastfeeding before Charissa got pregnant?
I knew it was better for the baby, but to be honest, as a bloke, I did think it was a bit weird at first. The thought of something sexual being for the baby. But I soon got used to it.

What’s it like being a dad?
Absolutely loving it! Sometimes I’ll be absolutely knackered and just need to sleep. But then just one look and one smile and it’s all worth it. The tiredness and sick and nappies are nothing compared with the joy of
having another human being that’s part of you. It’s a privilege and a blessing.

When did you decide to breastfeed?
About 6 months into the pregnancy.

Did it bother you that you couldn’t feed the baby?
A bit at first. But when he was about a couple of months old Charissa started to express milk into a bottle so I could feed him as well. It was nice to feel involved, a brilliant feeling to feed him and know it’s got all the right nutrients and isn’t just powder from a tin.

What advice would you give to other blokes who want to support their partners to breastfeed?
Learn to understand what she’s going through. Sacrifice your own sleep to make her a drink when she’s feeding in the middle of the night. As a bloke the main thing is to give the right encouragement. It’s no use saying it’s alright to give up when she’s in the middle of a really hard time. You’ve got to learn what to say, what not to say and when to say it.

KAT BARBER, 20, FROM YORK WITH 9-MONTH-OLD BABY THEO

Kat lives in York with her son, Theo. Before she became a mum, Kat was working part-time and training to become a hairstylist at college. Kat finished her course before her maternity leave and is now back at college, realising her ambitions by training in beauty therapy and media make-up.

Please explain why you’ve chosen to breastfeed?
From the day that I found out that I was pregnant, I knew that I was always going to breastfeed. My mum was a big influence, as she breastfed. It was useful for me to be able to talk to her about it all. I think that parents have a strong effect on you when you’re making decisions like that.

What did the people around you think of your decision to breastfeed - eg partner, parents, friends, family?
They thought that it was great, and that whatever I thought right for me and my baby was for the best.

What general advice would you give to expectant mums considering breastfeeding?
Find out as much information about it as you can. There’s more to breastfeeding than you might think, such as ways to ‘hook’ your baby on. There’s also lots of support available for you, so its a good idea to find out what’s available in your area.

What advice would you give to mums whose partner/friends/parents disapprove of breastfeeding?
Listen to the positive side of breastfeeding and evaluate the negative on your own account. Don’t be influenced by others.

Do you think that there are any drawbacks to breastfeeding? If so, what are they?
Some people worry how breastfeeding will affect their figure, especially their breasts, but what you have to understand is that at the end of the day, you have a beautiful, healthy baby and you’re doing what’s right for your child.

Did you speak to anyone for advice or do any research about feeding,? If so, who did you speak to/where did you look for information?
My mother! I also gained a lot of info from the ‘Mums-to-be’ project (now called YorBabe), which gave lots of help. Also, the books that the doctors gave me, and the internet were great sources too.

KIM SWALES, 23, FROM SCARBOROUGH WITH 5-MONTH-OLD BABY MOLLY

Kim lives in Scarborough with her daughter, Molly. Before she became a mum, Kim was working full-time as a nurse. Now that Molly is a little older, Kim plans to return to work full-time, in January 2010. Outside of work, Kim likes to keep fit at the gym, go shopping and catch up with her friends.

Please explain why you’ve chosen to breastfeed?
I made the decision at the start of my pregnancy. I really wanted to try it as it’s best for me and my baby. It’s free, and very rewarding. There’s no hassle of making bottles, Molly is getting everything she needs, straight from me.

What did the people around you think of your decision to breastfeed - eg partner, parents, friends, family?
My partner wanted me to breastfeed and all my family and friends were very supportive regarding my decision. I wanted to at least give it a try.

What general advice would you give to expectant mums considering breastfeeding?
Be patient, the first couple of days can be hard, but hang on in there. I had no problems after the first week and it’s been so worth it!

What advice would you give to mums whose partner/friends/parents disapprove of breastfeeding?
To at least give it a go and look at all the benefits. Keep your options open. It’s giving your baby the best possible start in life.

Do you think that there are any drawbacks to breastfeeding? If so, what are they?
Not really. I was a bit worried at first, when I breastfed Molly in public places, but now that I have experience it can be so discreet that nobody even knows that I’m feeding.

Did you speak to anyone for advice or do any research about feeding? If so, who did you speak to/where did you look for information?
I spoke to my midwife and asked family members that I knew had breastfed themselves. I also got lots of information from my pregnancy books.