Dads, don’t feel pushed out…

February 4th, 2010 · 3 Comments

3s a crowd

Breastfeeding is great for mum and baby, but it can make dad feel relegated to the subs bench.

With everyone focusing on the baby and the partner doing all the feeding, it’s normal for most blokes to feel a little pushed out.

Because new mums probably won’t feel very sexy for a while, dads can end up feeling like a complete spare part. If this sounds familiar, don’t worry—it’s perfectly normal. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby and it doesn’t mean you’re not bonding. “For a while I felt like all I could do was cheer from the touchline” explained Peter Purcell, 35 from Swinton. “But I just made sure that I got involved in other ways.”

The most important thing is to make sure you don’t let these feelings get in the way of supporting your partner at this important stage in your baby’s life. Check out the “It Takes Two” post for a run down of all the other stuff your baby and partner need—stuff that you and only you can do.

Tags: Dads and breastfeeding

3 responses so far ↓

  • Jason // Sep 16, 2011 at 9:13 am

    I have found that when my baby has finished feeding and is all food happy it is a great time for Dad to have skin to skin contact. Doing this will help the bond with Dad and also baby will remember being warm and satisfied when giving Daddy a cuddle.

  • Cathy Keville // Oct 21, 2010 at 11:03 am

    My husband didn’t feel left out at all he helped and supported me and our son to master the skill of breastfeeding and his job is to do bathtime so they get to spend time together.

  • Sam // Feb 16, 2010 at 10:47 pm

    It’s hard to feel sexy when you feel exhausting, and caring for a newborn is often exhausting, regardless of feeding method!

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